What is Lucid Dreaming?

The basic definition of lucid dreaming requires nothing more than becoming aware that you are dreaming. However, the quality of lucidity can vary greatly. When lucidity is at a high level, you are aware that everything experienced in the dream is occurring in your mind, that there is no real danger, and that you are asleep in bed and will awaken shortly. With low-level lucidity, you may be aware to a certain extent that you are dreaming, perhaps enough to fly or alter what you are doing, but not enough to realize that the people are dream representations, or that you can suffer no physical damage, or that you are actually in bed.

Monday, April 18, 2011

The Carrot on the Stick

The Carrot on the String

Now that I’ve covered the basics of lucid dream sex, I’ll move on to the real trouble with using lucid dreaming to explore sexuality: the Carrot on the String.
How many times have you realized you are dreaming and then wasted no time finding a romantic partner to couple with, only to find that the would-be-lover walks away, transforms into someone who is not attractive, or becomes angry and menacing?
Maybe you disengage to find another partner, only for the process to repeat again, either by meeting resistance, disinterest, or bizarre character transformations that you couldn’t even tell your best friends about out of sheer embarrassment.
Just when what you want is in reach, something yanks the string and you are left grasping at air.
This is the “carrot on the string,” one of the greatest self-limiting constructs in lucid dreamwork. Just when what you want is in reach, something yanks the string and you are left grasping at air.
The reason this happens is because most of the time we do not really crave lucid dream sex, but sexual connection. Nor do we really want to “have” that attractive person. Long story short, once we stop treating our fantasy dream loves like objects (specifically: carrots) to have or possess, entire new worlds of possibility open up.
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37 comments:

  1. GraftedApril 18, 2011 at 11:30 AM

    Really interesting stuff

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  2. AnonymousApril 18, 2011 at 11:36 AM

    It's about exploring the vast realms because there's endless possibilities :D

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  3. UnknownApril 18, 2011 at 1:32 PM

    Very interesting. I had a really weird sexual dream two nights ago. It was more perverted than sexual actually.

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  4. C Mo GunzApril 18, 2011 at 1:52 PM

    that was a good read, very interesting. thanks! :)

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  5. UnknownApril 18, 2011 at 1:58 PM

    wow interesting, thanks for sharing

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  6. Daniel SmothermanApril 18, 2011 at 4:47 PM

    interesting

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  7. JayApril 18, 2011 at 5:00 PM

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  8. DogShepApril 18, 2011 at 5:33 PM

    Interesting for sure :)

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  9. April 18, 2011 at 6:57 PM

    I had a lucid dream the other night where I had a threesome, then another person tried to hit on me, but I denied them because I found out they were a trap... I'm not shitting you either.

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  10. Ke3userApril 18, 2011 at 8:37 PM

    Wow. That's pretty upsetting. Still the concept of lucid dreaming alone is awesome.

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  11. Mike YurchenkoApril 18, 2011 at 9:32 PM

    curious info!

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  12. DokhoApril 19, 2011 at 1:07 AM

    Fascinating stuff mate!

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  13. TriperApril 19, 2011 at 3:59 AM

    You got totally right my friend. You must know your partner will 'manifest' into your dream from your thinking (love or hate)... So just be peacefull!

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  14. Just MeApril 19, 2011 at 4:26 AM

    this was a good read

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  15. KanedaApril 19, 2011 at 4:31 AM

    Interesting viewpoint about the sexual connection...

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  16. XatanaApril 19, 2011 at 6:24 AM

    My girlfriend did this in a dream the other day

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  17. AlexandraApril 19, 2011 at 10:22 AM

    lol great post! never experienced this but my bf has

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  18. JungApril 19, 2011 at 10:31 AM

    Hmm, maybe I should get into lucid dreaming again. It's just such a pain.

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  19. Solsby KidApril 19, 2011 at 11:18 AM

    Really interesting blog man... I'm following :)

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  20. LichApril 19, 2011 at 12:08 PM

    Very good advise, completely agree!

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  21. EndlessApril 19, 2011 at 12:56 PM

    keep it coming!

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  22. AnonymousApril 19, 2011 at 1:17 PM

    Interesting perspective on this subject. I have yet to get to that point in my dreams.

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  23. Come At Me BroApril 19, 2011 at 1:43 PM

    This is great!

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  24. MuteMath FanApril 19, 2011 at 3:45 PM

    Great views on this! Objectivity of a mate can happen whether you lucid dream or not :)

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  25. fit4lifeApril 19, 2011 at 3:55 PM

    i actually attempted lucid dreaming a couple times, it didnt work at all for me :/

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  26. NopeApril 19, 2011 at 4:40 PM

    Really cool stuff, more to come hopefully.

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  27. Jay ReidApril 19, 2011 at 4:43 PM

    I've tried, I probably don't have the patience to lucid dream.

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  28. lets go get lostApril 19, 2011 at 5:45 PM

    Damn I have to exercise it more. Every time I realize I'm dreaming I wake up.

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  29. Gambling DegenerateApril 20, 2011 at 2:00 AM

    wow glad i found a lucid dreaming blog, i actulaly lucid dream quite often and have been doing so for years. its a sad but true fact that i enjoy dreaming more than real life

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  30. J.R.April 20, 2011 at 2:52 AM

    Can't stop waking up when I realize I'm dreaming. :(

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  31. Al3xaGApril 20, 2011 at 5:27 PM

    Same as above, I've just had a couple lucid dreams, but when I realize im dreaming everything just fades to black.

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  32. RedHeadRobApril 20, 2011 at 10:35 PM

    Lucid dreaming is tricky.

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  33. Patti D.April 21, 2011 at 4:24 AM

    wow, very interesting.

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  34. MattApril 21, 2011 at 8:33 PM

    Good insight, nice post! Thankfully, I learned a long time ago to not wake up when I realize I'm dreaming!

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  35. RoloApril 21, 2011 at 11:31 PM

    this is really advanced for me. I can barely dream at all, let alone try to do complex stuff with them.

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  36. AnonymousApril 22, 2011 at 3:27 PM

    Great blog, I checked out your other blogs and they are fantastic. Do you do this for a living, I wouldn't mind starting my own blog. What does it take? How long are you actually blogging?

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  37. AnonymousApril 22, 2011 at 3:28 PM

    Well, the Hot and Naughty one is a little whatever but it's not bad to look at! Hahaha

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